Different Way of Fighting

I had lunch with a neighbor a few days ago. She took over business from her father and now runs the restaurant in the neighborhood.  

I saw her because she is different from me and I wanted to improve my social skills for interacting with such different people.

I said she was different in the following terms:

-   She took over the business from her dad and feels owed to him.

-   She does not like her sister, but spends a lot of time with her.

-   She also spends money for her through her sister's children. 

I believe that although she may not be aware, she dislikes her father, too because he is patriarchal. She is not married and is often made fun of by her parents because of that.   

Her sister is a divorcee, but has three kids. Her sister has been financially dependent almost entirely through her life on someone, i.e., at first her father, her ex-husband, and now back to dad. So, she has to work for not only herself, but also her parents and sister as the eldest daughter of a household without sons.

The same thing as what happened to me is happening to her, i.e., no matter hard you work and pay tax, you are not a human unless you are married and have a kid. But her way of dealing with the issue is different from mine.

I am married. I work as a company employee and am financially independent of my father. Also, I have been frequently saying to him that my values are different from his and if he forces his values on me, I will never see him.

It sounds a bit crazy, but if you are a woman, have no kids and are always criticized for that or for not fulfilling the responsibility as a woman, you have to protect yourself before mentally collapsing.

So, we have the same family issue, but deal with it differently, i.e., I am keeping a distance and getting prepared to sever ties if necessary while she maintains the relationship and fighting in a close range. Our ways are different, but have one thing in common. Psychologically, it is so hard to keep fighting because this is happening within a family.

Her attachments to her parents or sister are so strong that she has been struggling, but I want her to keep fighting for herself. And as long as she keeps fighting, I will always listen to her.