Keiko was more interested in law, but based
on her mom’s advice, decided to go between, i.e., she decided to major in
sociology. Students in the sociology department were considered more feminine
than those of the department of law, but a little less feminine than those of
the department of literature. It is difficult to say this is relevant, but according
to Keiko’s memory, female students accounted for about a half of the department
of literature, while one third of the department of sociology and less than 5%
of the department of law of her university.
Keiko finds it stupid now and thinks that she should have
chosen to study law. But it is more surprising that the view that women’s
happiness depends on their spouses is still prevalent in Japan.
One of Keiko’s neighbors has a teenage daughter. The husband and wife both speak English and the wife graduated from a university in the States, but they raised their daughter based on the idea that the most important thing for women is to be pretty to get a successful husband. Don't you find it funny?
So, here is a question. Is it worthwhile
for a woman to sacrifice or change her academic and/or professional carrier to
marry a rich guy?
Keiko firmly believes based on her own
experiences that her choice of studying sociology to marry “a rich guy” to be
happy was wrong, because she eventually was engaged in law related
jobs and married the "right" guy. There is no difference in the definition of happiness or success between
man and woman. Happiness depends on our own financial and psychological
independence, i.e., whether or not we are able to get what we want on our own.
But doing so requires criteria for defining what happiness is for each of us and abilities to achieve such defined happiness.
Keiko believes that one of the most
significant duties for parents is to make sure that children have such criteria based on which they can make important
decisions and abilities and strength whereby they can fulfill their own happiness.
In short, telling your child to rely on
something they cannot change by their effort (e.g., appearance, which of course
can be changed by cosmetic surgeries, but this is not discussed here) is absurd
and irresponsible. This is an act degrading themselves to a mere item which can
be owned and controlled by others.
Keiko has recently been wondering seriously
whether or not she should tell this idea to them, because doing so may
make the already bad relationship between Keiko and this couple further worse.
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